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Hi, I'm Jess and I'm the adult daughter of a narcissistic mother. For most of my life, I had the feeling something was off with my mom but would shrug it off as her being high maintenance or just plain difficult at times. Almost two years ago the pieces of the puzzle fell together and I came to realize she is a narcissist. Of course I cannot officially diagnose her with any condition but the more I learned about narcissistic personality disorder, the more I was able to grasp who she really is.

 It has devastated me to discover this, mostly because I understand now that my mother never has or never will be able to love me. I grieve for the mother I thought I had, as well as for the mother I'll never have. I can't begin to describe the soul crushing feeling that comes with knowing you matter not to the woman who is supposed to love you unconditionally, but I survived my childhood and I will survive this newfound awareness.

 I find writing very therapeutic and often journal my thoughts to help make sense of them. I decided to take my journaling to blogging to connect with others who have experienced emotional abuse at the hands of their mother. I encourage you to share your stories with me as well as what you've found to be helpful during your journey of healing.

Please remember to be kind in your comments. We're all healing here. ❤️

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